The Second Right Answer... is Love

Kim Wolinski, MSW
"Dr. DeClutter"
www.drdeclutter.com

The time you spent wasting that you enjoyed was not wasted.

~ John Lennon

Nothing in life has meaning except for the meaning that we give it.

Think about that as you go through your day reacting to people, thoughts, things, events and experiences that are only happening to you in the way that you see them. What is meaningful to one person, good or bad, can be the complete opposite to anyone and/or everyone else. It can also be just neutral.

Do you react a lot? How does that serve you to feel good about life, relaxed and calm, at peace and in the joy of life?

Every minute you’re angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I've been around many people who react about most everything. There's such a loss of life when that is a person's way of being.

Step back every time you begin to freak out! No matter how seemingly big and provoking something may seem, or small and sharp and painful. When you become angry and tight in your muscles and thoughts, holding love and feelings in, you hold everything and everyone else out.

Know that there is always a second right answer as to how to see anything and everything at any moment. Yes, it will take work at first! The second right answer can be love.

Someday, it can be the first right answer.

10 minutes of laughter = 2 hours of pain free sleep.

~ Norman Cousins, healed himself from cancer.

It’s always something.

~ Gilda Radner, as Rosanne Rosanna Danna. Lost her battle with cancer.

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.

~ Helen Keller

Shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow.

~ Swedish Proverb

The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong in the broken places.

~ Ernest Hemingway

It takes 36 facial muscles to frown, 13 to smile. Frowning physicians face twice as many mal-practice suits than those who smile!

©2007 Kim Wolinski, MSW "Dr. DeClutter" Stress, Change and Organizational Skills Expert

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Pay Attention to Self-Labeling!

Kim Wolinski, MSW
"Dr. DeClutter"
www.drdeclutter.com

In organizing it's important to label everything in order to find it faster, keep categories together and such. But when it comes to your life and your self-talk, be very aware of the labels you are tagging yourself with... that you may not want to live up to!

Negative self-labeling is an unconscious, programmed behavior. Everytime you say, "I am" in front of any sentence, you are labeling yourself that. Is "that" really who you are? Is "that" the person, the life and the experience you want to live out?

I hear many people, mostly women, who say things like:
"I am so fat!"
"I am so ugly!"
"I am not very good at ______________."
"I am always making mistakes and messing up."
And on and on.

These statements are actually abusive! Think about it. If someone else told you these things about yourself, you'd be hurt, angry and probably tell them off!

So, listen to your language, your self-labeling, and change it as soon as you are conscious of it. Change your statements and descriptions immediately to something positive, loving and self-nurturing.

Remember, whatever you say and consistently attach to the words,
"I am" you will become! YIKES! Take charge of your self-talk today!

"The root cause of suffering is identification with our thoughts,
the “stories” that are continuously running through our minds."

~ Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

©2007 Kim Wolinski, MSW "Dr. DeClutter" Stress, Change and Organizational Skills Expert

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Change Your Questions - Change Your Life

Kim Wolinski, MSW
"Dr. DeClutter"
http://www.drdeclutter.com/

If you really listen to your mind-chatter, you'll notice that you are constantly asking yourself questions. This is good! Questions lead to new answers and new directions... if... your questions are higher and higher quality questions.

Questions serve as a re-focus mechanism. Asking yourself new questions immediately changes what you're focusing on. They also change how you feel. And, in the long run, they should be guides to new options and directions.

Example: Weight loss
Instead of asking yourself limiting questions, like, "Why can't I lose weight?" Ask yourself higher quality questions, like, "What can I eat today that will be more nutritious and healthy for me?" Or, "What can I do to burn some calories today, even if for only 10 minutes?"

Change your questions to positive, life affirming and focused on new results in changed behavior and still more positive questions for forward movement.

©2007 Kim Wolinski, MSW "Dr. DeClutter" Stress, Change and Organizational Skills Expert

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